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It’s a fear reaction. Lashing out isn’t ok, but it’s a behavior that I recognize in myself that I am working hard to correct.
 
I have an appt for a steroid injection in my neck on Monday... and I threw my back out yesterday. :facepalm
Now I'm trying to hobble around this house on 2 canes. Wife is back at work, the demon-dog is bouncing off the walls and I'm not able to take him for his morning walk.
And I'm currently not drinking or smoking. :nchantr
Other than that... life is fantastic! :laughing
 
the blame game is never fun, I usually just take the blame and move on. If I can I never deal with the blamer again then I don't.
 
I’m currently being held down by the cat and dog who wish to stay in bed all day.
 
ThumperX said:
It’s a fear reaction. Lashing out isn’t ok, but it’s a behavior that I recognize in myself that I am working hard to correct.
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I understand this. However, in the fifteen plus years we've been together, I can count the number of times she has admittred to being wrong on two hands. I can can the number of times she has apologized on one.

It's a reaction alright. And we all have them. Mine tends to be "I'm sorry. My fault." And the combination of one person always being willing to apologize and the other completely unwilling, makes for a one sided relationship. Basically it's bullying. And her chest grows bigger with each battle won. Had I known then what I know now, I would have pushed back in the beginning. But I just wanted peace, so for fifteen years I have taken the blame and let her bully me.

In this case, she blamed me because I went out and closed the gate to the front pasture last night. IN her mind, I must have not put the little clip (which has failed multiple times already) on the gate.

The real reason is that a while back I had put a rubber strap on the gate so that even if they opened the latch, they couldn't push through it. Someone (not going to place blame here but it wasn't me), decided that was overkill and removed it. So, as the horses have done multiple times, they simply shoved the gate open and the latch spun on the axis and the gate opened.

Now, I could sit here and say that, rightly so. But I won't. Because:

A: She will never accept this and it will and already did turn into a huge fight.
B: I don't even give a shit anymore.
 
I know that often what I say comes off as blame when my intent is to express frustration. Since I’m second in command here and often my suggestions are dismissed or ignored when things go wrong I am vocal about them. It’s a terrible pattern that is difficult to alter.
 
Now I see the picture. Gate needs a stronger latch. With all your extra time go to the hardware store get a new more positive latch and fix the damn thing so it doesn’t need a secondary system. Then clean the house grocery shop and cook dinner.
 
Rtmac said:
My advise would be to put your foot down on this bullshit... HARD!
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Made it to the repair shop, didn't put down my foot on the accelerator even once !

(A kickdown on the accelerator produces noise, white smoke)

Also giving my money to independent mechanics, block., I suppose.
 
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The repair shop had a Duc 749s and 748(in repair) Life is good. (Don't ask about the rate.)

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Got on the bus. The weirdo guy at the bus stop who I thought was afraid of me but just wanted to talk to me...did start talking to me. Second "compliment" of this 🚲 shoulder bag haha

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He did look like brokeass Stuart, but younger and blonder. So I told him. ...so he messaged Stuart 😆😆😆

We talked about Benderz.a bit.
 
Damn Ricky.

Hang in there man.

Good reason to be a fan Kuro!
 
Yesterday on the way home I short-shifted into second gear without the clutch which is normally fine and dandy.
Except this time I was only a quarter mile from work on a cold day and turning left after a stop sign which is very much a reduced-traction situation.

:laughing
Really thought it was gonna pitch me into the weeds.
 
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