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What Are You Thinking Of Right Now?

My mother in law told me once, and now I tell people, that it is good to have a 'look at me file'. Whether it is a physical file, digital record, or a memory, it doesn't make much difference. As long as it's pulled out once in awhile so one can reflect on how far they've come.

It's easy to brush good acts under the rug because it's 'how we should act all the time'. It's also easy to remember mistakes, because brain. But if we are not careful, it is easy to fall into a spiral of not acknowledging one's wins, and focusing on the losses.
 
I'm thinking that's subjective.

It was the right thing to do.

We both had experiences that made us laugh watching a parent struggle with just one child while we relished in the fact we only had one instead of the usual two chaos gremlins.

But I'm still on edge. I still need to get out, and not just, "oh, why don't you go do chores for the house so that you can say you've got out of the house" but like actual free time to do actual free things.

Walking the dog is not free time.

Grocery shopping is not free time.

Working a gig is not free time.

Couldn't tell you the last time I had a day for myself to do free things.
 
I hope you can find some time to take care of yourself. Self care is important, even though it seems impossible to find the time to do it. I had a hospice nurse tell me I needed to take a day off for myself because if I didn’t I wouldn’t be able to take good care of Pop, and that was my #1 priority at the time. I still think about her sometimes, and am grateful for her eye-opening advice. I hope you find some relief soon.
 
i_am_the_koi said:
I'm thinking that's subjective.

It was the right thing to do.

We both had experiences that made us laugh watching a parent struggle with just one child while we relished in the fact we only had one instead of the usual two chaos gremlins.

But I'm still on edge. I still need to get out, and not just, "oh, why don't you go do chores for the house so that you can say you've got out of the house" but like actual free time to do actual free things.

Walking the dog is not free time.

Grocery shopping is not free time.

Working a gig is not free time.

Couldn't tell you the last time I had a day for myself to do free things.
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I recently heard about the invisible mental load which is the unpaid and unseen labor required to maintain a household. It's a shit ton of work and I have a huge amount of respect to those experiencing it.

I would love to have you and your chaos gremlins over to our place. I think you'd be in good company :thumbup I have a 16 month old and three year old that would love to play with new friends around their age!
 
I'm thinking self care has been the hardest thing to accomplish as an unemployed SAHD.

Especially without feeling guilty for doing it.

When you don't contribute to the household other than keeping it functioning, it's hard to justify spending actual money on yourself. Even a tank of gas in a motorcycle is. If we can afford to do something, it should be as a family.
 
Das MotorRad said:
I recently heard about the invisible mental load which is the unpaid and unseen labor required to maintain a household. It's a shit ton of work and I have a huge amount of respect to those experiencing it.

I would love to have you and your chaos gremlins over to our place. I think you'd be in good company :thumbup I have a 16 month old and three year old that would love to play with new friends around their age!
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Not sure where you're at but I'm down if it works out.
 
Other side of the delta but do gig work over there when I can so even if kidless we should at least burn one down
 
I'm thinking anyone who does accounting-related work deserves the relaxation of their choice after midnight tonight.

WHY DO PEOPLE WAIT UNTIL THE LAST MINUTE?
 
two wheel tramp said:
I'm thinking anyone who does accounting-related work deserves the relaxation of their choice after midnight tonight.

WHY DO PEOPLE WAIT UNTIL THE LAST MINUTE?
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it will only take a couple of minutes, it's so easy!




just 200 pages of crypto reports with no basis kkthxbai
 
It is a six story building. On every floor a huge steel beam sits where the new code says the men’s toilet should be. It was compliant with code when done.

Every job we have done in this building we have filed a hardship. Every job it has been approved. Near ten jobs I would say.

Now there is a new box checker in town that is exercising the shit out of it.

Detailed estimate. Justify this and that.

How about some common sense asswipe.
A legit hardship is property rights. Both the 3rd and 5th floor tenant would have to move a bunch of people thus infringing on their rights.

It is fucking automatic right there….. but no. You have to have the client spend 2k to address your petty little box. 🖕🏻

I can’t wait to retire because it is getting worse every year.
 
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I'm trying not to.

I'm also trying not to think about another college rape.

I'm thinking I need to start teaching my daughter the rip and pull.

And my son the rules of consent
 
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