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Coping Skills

For me, I get so little time to myself it’s difficult to actually pick up a book and read. My little ukulele really helps and the joy of plinking something reasonably recognizable helps regain a level of focus missing in my life these days.
 
Grissom said:
This is what I need to do!
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We got lucky in our timing as we not only closed before the 2008 Economic collapse but there was a bidding war for our company that ensured we'd never have to work again.

Best of luck to you if you are in that same mindset we were in 2007 when we were screwed over by a landlord. That was the last straw for us...and there were many straws.
 
The what are my coping skills are question? Got me thinking about what really helps me stay centered when life gets stressful.
For me, being on or around the water has always been one of the biggest things.
When I was younger, surfing was almost like meditation.
Something about being in the ocean, reading the waves, and focusing on the moment would quiet everything else down.
These days, I find that same feeling through kayaking, boogie boarding, swimming, or even just sitting by a river and listening to the water. It helps me slow down and be present.
Reading has also become an important outlet. Having quiet time alone with a good book gives my mind a chance to reset and step away from whatever is going on.
Another big one for me is riding my motorcycle. When I'm riding, I enter a flow state where my attention is completely on the road, the bike, and the ride itself. All the noise and distractions seem to fade away. It's hard to worry about much else when you're fully focused on the moment.
Looking at it now, I realize all of these activities have something in common. They pull me into the present and help me reconnect with myself.
Friendships also play a big part in my coping skills.
I'm curious if others experience something similar.
What are your coping skills, and what activities help bring you back to center?
The photo is McClure’s Beach Point Reyes national seashore just the other day….
PaulR
 

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@tuxumino you've decided to ignore a formal moderator request.

Mods are voting on a suspension.
 
Note to everyone else:

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Once the suspension poll is closed, I'll remove his posts from this thread.
 
So gatekeeping coping skills and methods...?
 
Enchanter said:
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Poll closed ….
What are you waiting for …..
Geez
🤪 PaulR
 
Abacinator said:
No. Just tux. He's been asked on several occasions to stop spamming threads with off-topic videos
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TiL You can turn off your own ability to post videos by having an option clicked in your settings. And if you don't notice it until you read that you turned off tux, then you think you also got turned off.
 
Circling again

Trying to get through the mental struggle but let myself get hope which means I gave myself an excuse for depression.

I know better, I shouldn't be surprised, but I let myself believe.

Now I'm rehashing 10+ years of 'friendship' and 20 other 'friendships' and just embarrassed at myself.


It has to be me...

It has to be.
 
That sounds a lot like me at times. A negative loop gets stuck in my head every once in a while and lasts days sometimes.

I’ve never sought professional help. I’m the master of my emotions, at least I should be.
 
I started reading an amazing book called Letting Go. A most profound idea was presented near the beginning and I’ve just been chewing on it for months. It is that our emotions, the raw base emotions, are all valid and real. You cannot argue with a feeling—and those are primal, based in survival. For instance being a lonely earlier human did not bode well for survival.

Now what our minds do with those emotions is to take that basic feeling and attach at least 1 million (mostly useless) words to it. This thought brings me extreme comfort.
 
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